Self-Care When Life Falls Apart
- My oldest son would call Dad.
- My oldest daughter would help me however she could. She took action immediately each time. (Still does)
- My youngest daughter was in my tummy - waiting to join the excitement of our crazy life!
- My husband was usually working. He seemed exceptionally tired and had a hard time getting motivated. It wouldn't be until 8 years later we would discover he had already had a heart attack and was suffering from diabetes. -The doctor missed it.
How I Put On My Oxygen MaskFor those of you who aren't aware, an oxygen mask is what comes down from the ceiling when a plane is going down. The flight attendant of the plane will tell you, "If you are traveling with a child, please put on your oxygen mask first. Then you will be able to breath in order to put your child's oxygen mask on!" Our family has been through a lot of trauma. I had to learn how to put my oxygen mask on in order to be fully present for my family.
Five Ways to Practice Self-Care When Life Falls Apart
One - Call A Friend and Accept HelpI was always taught "pull yourself up by your bootstraps." It didn't come naturally for me to ask for help or to accept help. I learned very quickly the proper way to respond when someone offers you help is, "Thank you!" I have accepted meals, house cleaning, babysitting, groceries, prayer, and sleep overs. I have friends who I know would be there for me at a moment's notice. But - I have to call and I have to say, "Thank you!"
Three - Drink Water and Eat as Healthy as PossibleAdrenaline is at an all time high in your body when life falls apart. It is important to keep it hydrated and eat as healthy as possible. And even though it is tempting, it is really important to NOT guzzle the caffeine. I absolutely make this a priority now. (Remind me to tell you sometime about the day my husband had an emergency triple bypass and I ended up in the emergency room that night due to a caffeine and stress overload. -Yes, I have learned. My oldest daughter wants a shout out right here! She was incredible that night!
Four - Listen to Encouraging MusicOur house was pretty stressed out for a long time due to seizures, heart attacks, deaths, head injury, and various emergency room trips. As a part time stay-at-home mom, I always had "happy music" on. My children listened to classical music and instrumental smooth jazz. We listened to our favorite popular Christian music station when driving in the van. And - Of course, we listened to "Frank Sinatra Duets" when doing cleaning. It is absolutely true. Music calms the savage beasts. Trust me - We were all savage beasts some days! Legally Blonde, "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands, they just don't." If you happened on this post because perhaps life has fallen apart for you, I hope these ideas are helpful for you! Leave me a post letting me know what your tips for staying sane when life falls apart!
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